Festival Skirts & Leveling Up

So, this month, I did a theme of festival looks and it was really hard. It was hard trying to find pieces that were fashionable and not very revealing. Some of the plus size festival outfits were literally swimsuits and while I believe that women should wear what is comfortable to them, I did not want to wear a swimsuit unless I was going swimming. Even though I didn’t find outfits to wear outside of the house or the swimming pool, I did use that as inspiration.

I found some swimsuit cover-ups that I had in my closet and began piecing things together. I have never been to a festival or coachella (weird I know), but I did want to try something new and go out of my comfort zone. Man do I love my comfort zones. Who doesn’t?

So, while I was talking to a friend about the festival shoot, how I felt about my body and how I was nervous; our conversation naturally transitioned to dating and the way we felt about our bodies. Especially when it comes to being larger than a lot of the women on Instagram. Lately, when it comes to dating, I have not had an internal issue with men not liking me. I feel that everyone has a type and if I am someone’s type, awesome. If not, then that’s fine too.

She commented about a guy she liked that described his perfect type and she fit the bill. She expressed her interest and his response wasn’t favorable. She then told me that, if he didn’t love her before she lost weight then he doesn’t deserve her after she’s lost the weight. I simply told her, to stop trying to get people to love some alternative version of you.

We have all heard the cliche sayings, “If you don’t love me at my lowest, then you don’t deserve me at my best” Sis, if he doesn’t love you at your lowest then he doesn’t love you and if he loves you at your best then that is with a conditional love that will eventually expire. Kinda like those guys who leave if she didn’t lose the baby weight fast enough or if her stretch marks are an issue.

Whether you are a plus size woman or not, you should date someone that loves you and sees you regardless of your size, regardless of whether your hair is done or not, regardless of whether you lose weight or your waist is snatched. Choose someone that loves you fully today, not some imaginary version of you that may never come. Ladies, together, let’s level up!

(outfit deets: Skirt, belt, top, boots)